About me
I’m an 80s kid from New Jersey. I spent a formative decade living in Boston and one year in a renovated barn in Vermont. I’m a Gemini and left-handed and love change.
My parents divorced when I was 3 months old which tells you a lot about my start in life. I’ve always followed the beat of my own drum but also wasted a lot of time seeking external validation coming from the neglect I experienced in my childhood (and it’s not like it’s over, most of my family hasn’t spoken to me since 2009).
Overcoming an eating disorder in high school by myself started my health & wellness journey and about 10 years later, when a health coach helped heal my acne, I had a huge breakthrough and pursued it as a career myself 5 years later. Having changed jobs so many times, it feels so different to know my true purpose and live it out as a coach and consultant. I combine all my natural talents and formal education/training and it’s truly fulfilling.
It’s also been a wicked challenge, because as if being an entrepreneur wasn’t tricky enough, I decided to transition my gender identity in 2012 at the age of 34 way ahead of the cultural curve. I was naive. It’s been a daily uphill battle balanced with intermittent periods of rest and joy. It’s mostly difficult, though, because prejudice and discrimination and transphobia don’t take a day off, man.
This life experience has made me a better person and coach. I understood transition, change and transformation before from helping so many people thought it and all the many, many changes I made in my own life but facing the headwinds of such a profound identity change taught me lessons I never could have known before.
And while I do not coach LGBTQIA+ people exclusively or market myself as a DEIB consultant, my identity and life experience sets me apart from other coaches and even many therapists.
I exist for anyone who needs a patient, kind and empathetic listener to support them when they need it most.
“I needed someone nothing like me but who could get me. Someone who had been through some serious shit, who wouldn’t judge me.”
In my keynotes, classes and with individual clients, I always tell true stories about my struggles and many successes to inspire other people.
I also share this on Instagram.
I call it my “Dillanspiration”.
